We all seek to be happy, or at least comfortable, in our relationships, and we generally accept the fact that sometimes they don’t work out. However, the more we have invested in a relationship, the more we may seek to preserve it—even when there is overwhelming evidence that it has deteriorated to an unhealthy state. Logic may take a back seat to denial and confirmation bias (and any number of other mental manipulations). From a safety point of view (both physical and emotional), the single most effective prevention strategy is to be open to the idea that as a relationship changes, so can your opinion of it and your commitment to it.

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